Modern Day Pen Pals

When I was about eleven, I had a pen pal.

Remember those?

These days, pen pals have gone digital. Google the term ‘pen pal’ and there are apps and websites dedicated to them. In a world where emails are the preferred method of communication, it seems that pen friends are still en vogue. 

But anyway, I digress.

My penpal was Italian. She had long dark hair, tied back in a sleek ponytail and in the photo she’d sent me, she wore a sea-green sweatshirt . I can’t even remember her name — it was such a long time ago — but I used to love receiving her letters in the post.

They used to contain news of her life; little Italian treats — stickers, scented rubbers or tiny sweets — and basically, in an age where there was no internet, email or social media of any kind, they gave the most enticing glimpse into the life of someone I barely knew.

Why have a pen pal?

Digital communication is good — amazing in fact — but these days everything is so immediate.

You can post how you feel — for thousands of people to see — and even have a face-to-face conversation, in real time, with someone who’s thousands of miles away. It’s the kind of technology they used to talk about on Tomorrow’s World.

Only now, it’s not ‘the future’, it’s the here and now.

Nowadays, there’s something utterly charming about an old fashioned letter.

So imagine my excitement when, last month, I received an intriguing box filed with the loveliest treats from my blogging friend Fionnuala, who lives in Germany.

Received in The Post

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Walnuts sent to me by my international pen pal



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In Celebration of Snail Mail & The Old Fashioned Pen Pal

Fionnu had sent me a bag filled with fresh walnuts from the tree in her garden, a little parcel of chocolate covered marzipan (something we had a lengthy Twitter discussion about last Christmas) and a can — yes, a can — of Prosecco. A running joke and something that doesn’t seem to be widely (if at all) available in the UK.

I thought it was an urban myth until I opened the packaging!! But I can now confirm that it does exist — and also tastes very good!

I’d no idea that my friend was sending this little package of loveliness and it was such a treat to receive it.

Funnily enough, I used to take part in an organised gift swap which was very similar. The difference being that you had a good idea that someone was sending you something — albeit not what they were going to send.

Weirdly enough, opening this little box of treasures transported me back to being eleven again. Coming home from school to find a letter from my penpal. In this immediate, digital age, it’s not often we receive lovely and exciting surprises.

So thank you Fionnu. Thanks for being so thoughtful and taking the time to send such a lovely selection of little treats through the post.

It made my entire week.

Although the marzipan didn’t last that long ;)


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About Caro Davies

Caro Davies art directed fashion and interiors before leaving the world of design to pursue a career in social media. She can now be found chasing the light — and two small twin boys.

22 thoughts on “Modern Day Pen Pals

  1. Ah I had pen pals but I was terrible and always forgot to reply to them so we never got very far ha ha. This is such a lovely idea and use have been a treat to receive! Thanks for hosting #homeetc :)

  2. I used to always collect penpals from our family holidays – I used to love receiving their letters and writing mine, although I never received treats! How thoughtful this little package is, it must’ve been lovely to receive. And Prosecco in a can?! I’m sold! Think I need to get me another penpal! #HomeEtc xx

  3. Your pics are gorgeous!
    I totally agree, nothing quite matches receiving something handwritten. I actually think we’re craving this kind of interaction now and I really hope penpals make a comeback!


  4. This is the sweetest!! And so thoughtful. I agree – there’s many things I miss about the ‘good old days’ – even when I watch old episodes of Sex and the City it makes me hark back for a time when we’d all call each others landlines. I lived in the US as a student, pre-internet days and loved getting letters from my friends and family back home, such a treat. Beautiful photos Xx

    1. Haha!! Landlines! Now there’s a thing. Although, to be honest, the signal is so poor is our village, people are more likely to get hold of me on the landline than my mobile if I’m at home!! ;)

  5. Oh what a lovely treat! I love getting little gifts in the post and sending them too. So thoughtful. I have to say I am most excited by the can of fizz! #HomeEtc

  6. What a cool parcel! I have been on the receiving end of a little parcel of goodies from Fionnula too, she is so lovely :) I used to love my letters from my German penpal. I have since tried to find her on twitter funnily enough but with no luck!! x #Homeetc

    1. Did you really think I wouldn’t mention it on my blog?! ;) Haha!! It was all too nice not to take photos of!! Thanks so much again — so thoughtful of you. And YES. That marzipan lasted all of two days. Apart from the one in the photo that I managed to keep until I’d taken some pictures!!!

  7. This is the loveliest blog post ever! I can’t think of anything nicer than an unexpected but so thoughtful gift in the post. I had a pen pal too around the same age as you – it came about when I won a writing competition in the Puffin Post and they let me know that they also had another member of the Puffin Club with the same name as me – she in London, me in Ireland. They put us in touch, and we became pen pals, and I looked up to her so much as my more sophisticated other, but always tried to impress her with carefully chosen gifts, which in hindsight were probably really embarrassing! Bring back pen pals I say – and your post definitely supports this!

    1. Well done on the Puffin comp!!! And yes — it’s a bit sad that pen pals are not a ‘thing’ anymore and letter writing is a bit of a lost art. I definitely think it should make a come-back! Such a lovely thing for kids to experience :)

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