132 weeks and 6 days | Memory Frames

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A couple of weeks ago I wrote about the death of my friend.

It was such a shock to hear of her passing. Even though I knew she was ill, I didn’t think for a second that she wasn’t going to beat the cancer that had cruelly taken hold of her.

Every conversation we’d had — in the weeks leading up to her death — had been very upbeat and positive, to the extent that I had been lulled into a very false sense of security about the extent of her illness.

I’m not sure — and will never know — if she knew how poorly she was (and just wanted to spare me that knowledge) or whether she truly believed she was going to make a full recovery.

Probably the former; she was one of the most selfless, generous people I’ve ever met and probably didn’t want to upset me, knowing her.

I wrote a diary entry about it. Particularly the fact that her passing was a stark reminder how fragile life can be. With the flip of a coin, our luck can change and the path we were merrily treading can divert off in a totally different direction.

It made me so grateful for my ordinary little life.

So grateful for the simple things. The tedium and normality of the everyday. Cleaning, washing, shopping. Sitting watching TV. Putting the kettle on.

Jen’s passing was a shock to the system and acted as a reminder to be mindful of how lucky I am. And I’ve had the same words spinning around my head since I wrote them down a couple of weeks ago.

So, in her memory, I’ve designed a new papercut.

Very simple — not as ornate as some of the ones I’ve made in the past — with an important message. Words that I want to be reminded of on a daily basis.

Cherish The Ordinary

I’ve created it to fit inside one of two lovely Kiko frames from Rose and Grey. These beautiful frames are so simple; two sheets of glass, elegantly framed in paper thin metal. They’re the perfect home for a papercut too as it shows off the artwork without having to mount it onto a backing card.

They’re similar to the ones I stock in my shop but much more delicate. And the best thing of all is, you can change the contents as often as you like.

I like the thought that I can display it, alongside a little memento of an ordinary, everyday event.

Train or bus tickets, that serve to remind me of a lovely afternoon out.  Polaroids of a holiday — perhaps with a stolen beermat.

Or, in this instance, a leaf collected by my little sons on the way back from nursery today.

I can see that these two little frames will act as a little snapshot of what my family and I have been doing, on random days, throughout the year. Memory frames. As the seasons change, the content of one of the frames — and the vase — will too.

But the overriding message, constant throughout the year, will be clear.

To cherish the time we have. Rejoice in the tedium and normality.

Life is so precious — don’t waste it wishing for something exciting, something ‘extraordinary’ to happen. Breathe in the everyday and remember to count our lucky stars.

We’re so blessed to even be here.

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I was asked to join in with Rose & Grey’s styling challenge and was kindly sent two beautiful Kiko frames, to complete my task. You can buy them in various sizes and finishes — plus lots of other lovely products — from their website. Pop along and have a look www.roseandgrey.co.uk

All photos, thoughts and words are my own.

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Caro Davies

Caro Davies art directed fashion and interiors before leaving the world of design to pursue a career in social media. She can now be found chasing the light — and two small twin boys.

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48 Comments

  1. 22nd Sep 2015 / 7:15 pm

    such a perfect statement that is so incredibly true, yet sadly it often takes a tragedy to truly appreciate the importance of it. Cancer is evil but it undoubtedly shows us we have to live for th moment – grand or ordinary, just savour it all xx

    • 22nd Sep 2015 / 7:17 pm

      Thanks lovely. I’ve been thinking of nothing else for a couple of weeks now. Lovely to have something to remind myself of it on a daily basis :) xx

  2. 22nd Sep 2015 / 7:52 pm

    oh isn’t that just perfectly lovely. It’s a beautiful paper cut and it matches the frame so nicely. I love the idea of changing the frames seasonally – something frosted and sparkly for Christmas perhaps?!

    • 23rd Sep 2015 / 10:42 am

      Thanks Carie. Yes — it’s lovely to think that the frames will reflect the seasons or what we’ve been doing. They’re such lovely frames :)

  3. 22nd Sep 2015 / 8:47 pm

    Just beautiful Caro. I am so sorry for your loss :( Just so sad and truly devastating. These pieces are lovely, you are such a talented and clever lady. And I agree how important every tiny moment is, even if it is simple. Love you xx Jess xx

    #HomeEtc

    • 23rd Sep 2015 / 10:35 am

      I think those simple times are the best ‘cos, as I said in my original post, if things took a turn for the worse, we’d do anything to go back to the tedium of every day, normal, routine life xx

    • 23rd Sep 2015 / 10:34 am

      Thanks pet. It’s so, so sad she’s gone. And it’s served as a very strong reminder to me to be mindful of what we have and how lucky we are xx

  4. 22nd Sep 2015 / 9:49 pm

    Oh wow the paper cut is just beautiful as are all your others (and I know as I have one!). It really looks gorgeous in that frame too, I love it. Great idea for little finds too. i am so sorry about your friend, and I know so well the importance of cherishing every day and just the ordinary stuff, as not everyone can stick around to experience it. Lots and lots of love xxxx

    • 23rd Sep 2015 / 10:03 am

      Thanks lovely. It’s so nice to be able to make these — particularly to mark an event and act as a reminder or give a little boost. I tend to design them when I have something on my mind. The frames are lovely aren’t they? I can see that I may be purchasing a fair few of them in the near future xx

  5. 22nd Sep 2015 / 11:14 pm

    What a lovely, beautiful memory. I just could not love it more. I lost a dear friend of mine several years ago and not a day goes by I don’t think of her lovely spirit. Your friend has left a beautiful legacy.
    Natalie

    • 23rd Sep 2015 / 9:58 am

      Thanks so much Natalie — I’m sorry about your friend. It’s so sad isn’t it? I absolutely can’t believe Jenni has gone. It’s just too soon xx

  6. 23rd Sep 2015 / 12:00 am

    They’re beautiful frames and that’s a beautiful message and tribute to your friend – it’s so true, we so often forget how good life is. Hugs x

    • 23rd Sep 2015 / 10:46 am

      Thanks Steph. They’re lovely aren’t they? I’ve been looking at them for a while now. Really grateful to be given the opportunity to blog about them :) And yes, life (especially when there’s no drama) is the best xx

  7. 23rd Sep 2015 / 5:51 am

    You’ve come up with ‘s beautiful papercut (again!) And those frames really are gorgeous. I have been looking for some for my dad. He has lovely original stonework in his renovated barn and I think this kind of frame would show off both it and the framed drawings really well.
    It is lovely to see that Jen’s death has made you appreciative and creative. From how you describe her,I think she’d like that reaction rather than being glum, sad though it is.

    • 23rd Sep 2015 / 9:56 am

      Those frame would be PERFECT for your dad’s place!! It would be lovely to see the stone underneath. They come in various sizes and formats and they’re a great price too. Yes — it’s sad that things like this have to happen to make us mindful of what we have xx

  8. 23rd Sep 2015 / 6:43 am

    Oh how sad! It’s very true , the ordinary does need to be cherished. The frames are beautiful! #HomeEtc

    • 23rd Sep 2015 / 9:42 am

      It’s SO sad. Still can’t believe she’s gone. Happy to have these beautiful frames to remember her by :)

  9. Potty Mouthed Mummy
    23rd Sep 2015 / 7:26 am

    Beautiful and I’m so sorry about your friend. These frames are a gorgeous way to remember her x

  10. 23rd Sep 2015 / 7:33 am

    This is so beautiful and so a wonderful tribute to your friend. Absolutely beautiful and I love the frame that will hold different memories. Just lovely. Went over to that website too – oh my goodness! One for the bookmarks page! Thanks for hosting #HomeEtc

    • 23rd Sep 2015 / 9:34 am

      Thanks lovely. I’m lucky, I guess, that I’ve got the ability to make things like this if I want to. It’s always quite cathartic to design things with other people in mind. Whenever I look at this I’ll think of Jenni xx

  11. 23rd Sep 2015 / 10:35 am

    Such beautiful, beautiful words – and sentiment. I’m always encouraging myself and those around me to appreciate every little moment because it’s all so very precious. I really love your creativity, a fitting tribute to your friend and something you can adapt and keep with you for years to come. Thank you for hosting X

    • 23rd Sep 2015 / 10:36 am

      Aah thanks lovely :) It’s easy to forget isn’t it? And wish for something a bit more exciting. But actually, when it boils down to it, the simplest days are the best x

  12. 23rd Sep 2015 / 10:44 am

    What a beautiful and poignant tribute to your friend. I’m so sorry for your loss honey – you are right to point to the ordinary things in life as being the ones we need to cherish the most xx #HomeEtc

    • 23rd Sep 2015 / 10:47 am

      Thanks so much Michelle. I can’t get my head around the fact she’s gone — it’s SO weird. So wish I’d know she wasn’t going to make it xx

  13. 23rd Sep 2015 / 12:53 pm

    Beautiful – I wholeheartedly agree xx #HomeEtc

  14. 23rd Sep 2015 / 1:41 pm

    Sorry about your loss. Love your papercuts and the words.

    • 23rd Sep 2015 / 3:44 pm

      Thanks so much Kirsty — that’s really lovely of you x

  15. 23rd Sep 2015 / 6:35 pm

    It certainly looks lovely. Hope yo don’t have soar fingers from the cutting.

    • 25th Sep 2015 / 9:30 am

      Thanks pet! And no — the sawing was really easy to do! Very quick and simple :)

  16. 23rd Sep 2015 / 9:08 pm

    These are so beautiful and the papercut is stunning. I’m so sorry for your loss but it’s so great to have all your lovely memories and a reminder of them every day. Becky x #homeetc

    • 25th Sep 2015 / 9:30 am

      Thanks so much Becky. I have got such lovely memories — just so, so sad that she’s gone. I still can’t quite get my head round it x

  17. 23rd Sep 2015 / 9:11 pm

    What a beautiful papercut and a lovely sentiment. I’m so sorry for your loss, what a terrible shock. So lovely that you have this constant reminder of the memories you have of her. I hope it makes it a little easier for you. Becky x #homeetc

  18. 23rd Sep 2015 / 9:20 pm

    So sorry to hear about your friend, we heard some really sad news this week and it really does put life into perspective and your words are just perfect. xxx

    • 25th Sep 2015 / 9:29 am

      Thanks lovely. Yes — you’re right — it really does put things into perspective doesn’t it? xx

  19. 23rd Sep 2015 / 9:23 pm

    A beautiful message in a beautiful frame. I’m so sorry about your friend. Life can take such unexpected turns, that you are right, just cherish the everyday ordinary. The frames really are lovely, they’ve got a vintage look to them which is really pretty. Sabrina xx
    #HomeEtc

    • 25th Sep 2015 / 9:26 am

      Thanks lovely. I’m so pleased with the frames — I’ve been looking at them for a while so it’s so nice to have been gifted a couple x

  20. 23rd Sep 2015 / 10:40 pm

    This is such a lovely thought. You are so right that we should cherish every day. You just never know what is around the corner and it would be such a shame to waste a single moment of the life we’ve been given wishing for something different. I love the frames and your paper cut is beautiful. A lovely way to remember your friend and remind yourself how blessed you are daily. xx

    • 25th Sep 2015 / 9:24 am

      Thanks pet. The frames are lovely aren’t they? An easy way of displaying changing content too, as they open up really easily xx

  21. Kerry
    24th Sep 2015 / 11:08 am

    I’m so very sorry to hear of your loss. How very sad. I hope you are getting lots of support from your loved ones. The frames are absolutely beautiful as is the sentiment xxxx

  22. 24th Sep 2015 / 9:53 pm

    Death is one of those things we are in denial about. It is only human not to accept it. My heart goes out to you and your friend’s family. xxxx #homeEtc

    • 25th Sep 2015 / 9:13 am

      Weird isn’t it? Particularly as it happens to us all. It should really be something that we accept — but instead we’re all so fearful of it xx

  23. 27th Sep 2015 / 7:59 am

    These frames are beautiful Caro, as is your papercut- how talented are you? I love the statement too, something I try and do a lot. I am really sorry to hear about your friend. x

    • 27th Sep 2015 / 2:54 pm

      Thanks pet. It’s been a sad few weeks; although having something to remind me of Jen — as well as remind me daily how lucky I am — is a really lovely thing xx

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